Coaching for the Alienated Parent
Words can not convey the despair, physical and emotional pain or the daily strangulation of being apart from your children because of your co-parent. Ruminating over the motivation of the perpetrator whether they are narcissistic or some other borderline personality disorder will get you nowhere, taking positive action for yourself will. Coaching with me enables you to be supported every step of this nightmare journey. With a focused strategy you will find peace of mind.
If this is happening to you and you are living it daily, you are coping with every parent's worst nightmare with no end in sight. This feels overwhelming and can move to completely paralyse you when you least expect it.
I have felt your despair
In those first few months of not seeing my children, I could not function properly, I cut myself off from everyone and everything. Simple tasks such as going to a supermarket during the daytime became impossible in case I saw parents and their children, I stopped being away from my home at school drop off and pick up. I would physically react, on one occasion a little girl fell over in front of me in a shopping centre and started crying. Her mother quickly scooped her up to calm her down and I fled only to be physically sick once I got to my car. All I could think of was what happens when my daughters cry for me? Trust me, I know your agony, despair and sense of injustice.
I lived without my children for 2 years, not a sight of their faces, not a sound of their voices, nothing. I have journeyed the path you are on now, you will get there, you will get through it. I am here to walk and guide you along that path so you are never alone, until that day when you are with your children again.
Letting go of Anger, Sadness and Pain
While we talk about and acknowledge the past, coaching with me is forward focused, future focused with a series of end goals. Letting go of anger, pain and bitterness which disempowers you, robbing you of your ability to think clearly. Instead we will work in putting coping strategies in place as well as an over arching strategy for your children. We need to return to them the best version of you because they do need you, you are a major part of them and you cannot be erased from their lives. We will explore options you may not have considered.
Regular sessions
Our sessions can be regularly scheduled opportunities for us to look at where you are now, how you can move forward and take a deeper look at where you want to be.
I am also available for those dark times when you have nobody to talk to and you need support. Our emotions do not run like a clock, and I will make time to talk to you when things just get too difficult to cope with on your own. This can be at the end of another court hearing, which has concluded with barely incremental steps made in your case or on a Sunday morning when the loneliness and silence of an empty house can be overwhelming. I have lived through these times, I know the intensity of what you are going through.
The pain impacts the whole family...
Parental Alienation is one of the worst experiences not just for the parent but also for the whole family and grandparents are often the neglected parties. They feel all the emotional ups and downs that their family goes through and they want to be there for their adult children and their grandchildren.
This can take a painful emotional toll on grandparents at a time when they may well be coping with many changes in their own lives. The love, care and support that grandparents give can leave them absolutely exhausted. I understand the important part that they play within the family and I know how important it is for the families future that their emotional health and wellbeing is looked after.
They often have nobody to turn to for support but I understand their needs.
It is all about strategy
I work closely with my clients through a logical and flexible process. One small step leads to another small step which leads you to the next. I can work holistically alongside your legal team or advisors. I provide you the most emotionally supportive, confidential space to be the best version of yourself for that time when your team need you to fight back.
Kind Words
My clients have described my approach to the breakup of their relationships as deeply caring, supportive, and solution focused. Providing that motivation needed to sustain momentum for change and stop them getting emotionally exhausted.
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